Multiplayer mode gets mixed reviews as to playability. At first release, IWD worked extremely well in multiplayer mode. Lag was minimal, and there was much joy in the world. After HOW was installed, things changed.
Multiplayer mode became more troublesome - lag during combat got very bad at times, and often necessitated turning off numerous graphics options to make the game playable. But it is doable.
As for finding players ... well, I am currently hosting a game of IWD/HOW/TOL and I found all the players for the game right here at IW. [img]smile.gif[/img]