LOL! I can't agree more... I had to restart as a male to undo the horrors...
I seriously don't see uses for Anomen. I'd rather use Viconia as my cleric tank (she often sits with AC of -12 or so I think), and give her a belt or gloves and Runehammer... She seems to do quite well for herself.
She also gets A TON more spells than dinkey anomen, and is better looking and has a better personality to boot.
Haer Dalis main use is as a secondary mage (in SoA at least) with more fighting. That, and as a user of all those otherwise useless barditems...
I love him with Use Any Item and Improved Bard Song... And any of the hideously powerful traps. lol, he would kick anomen's arse so bad it ain't funny. His dexterity drainer would just make things REALLY ugly.
Improved haste, Stoneskin and Tensers Transformation and you have one mighty Bardguy. Seriously, I would rather take a paladin out or a dwarf fighter/cleric then anomen... especially in ToB (multi is better than dual their anyway)