My position is that the current system works.
I think parents can control what their kids are exposed to while in their house. I think parents can educate their children,
explain to them what is right or wrong, and why. Not
tell them,
explain. So they understand the reasoning behind it, so they can reproduce that reasoning.
The first time kids have to be out of the direct supervision of their parents and in "the village" as you call it is for school. You've got five to six years to build a good base in them before that. And you can always chose the school.
You control who your kids hang out with. You can investigate them, their parents, you can decide if they are a good influence for your kids. You can also chose what extended network your kids will be exposed to. Send them to church if you want. Send them to a religious school, send them to private camps, to the sport team approved by your moral group.
School is really the only outside factor in a growing kid's life. You control the tv. You control the computer. You control who he sees, what he does.
You talked about positive reinforcement. Positive reinforcement is probably the parent's most powerful tool. Through all the above you shape his life. You shape his background, you shape the lens by which he sees life.
You have all the tools you need to raise your kids. The same tools which all parents have, have had since the beginning of humanity. If in his first fifteen years you haven't be able to instill a sense of right in your kid, well you failed.
You chose who you hang out with and where you live. I see nothing wrong with Mature games because it isn't a problem in my direct family, it isn't a problem in my extended family, it isn't a problem in my circle of friends and it isn't a problem in my local shops as they would not let a minor have access to such games. In short, it isn't a problem in "my village". Mature products are only a problem if you can't trust your kids to make the right choice and if you played your cards right you shouldn't have to doubt them.
Do you doubt your kids? Have you failed to pass on your moral values?
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Originally Posted by Yorick
As for all your questions, yes I would stop drinking if it harmed my kids health. My wife stopped for pregnancy, so it's obvious people do such a thing.
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You are exposing your child to alcohol. Society is exposing your child to alcohol. How do you know they won't become drunkards? Alcohol IS harming your child's health, as much as violent or sexual products are. Probably even more, as they are much more likely to start drinking than they are to start killing. Why won't they become drunkards? Because you sensibilized them against alcohol. Who not just sensibilize them against violence? Against casual sex?