[Balintherlas]

Isn't that one of the most dreadful things a guy can hear? However, you know your wife better than anyone from here would (I assume), so you'll prolly just have to think on what she wants to hear from you, what she wants you to do.

As to your second question, I think that the fisrt thing people notice is the physical appearance, what they themselves think is handsome or pretty. So maybe you should try workin out, build a little more muscle to get som more definition.

That being said, I don't know the first thing about love and relationships. Good luck with your wife though Target, if she's talking to you about how she feels thats prolly a good sign right?