[Captain Obvious]

Attraction is a tough one - but in my (admitedly limited) experience, massage is always a good way to help the mood along. Also, a really long sensual relaxing massage will help her unwind a bit, and it shows you love her.

Im not talking about a quick shoulder rub. Im talking a Once the daughter is in bed 2 hour, full body massage - from head to toes. Put on some nice music, candles, fragrancy massage oil stuff (god i hate that stuff, but my wife loves it) and take your time. Actaully, take HER time.

While this may not make you a stud muffin overnight, it is a very caring, loving thing to do - and i get the impression you are after that more than rampant sex.

I also agree with the others - you need to really communicate with her and find out exactly why she feels as she does. Again, in my limited experience it is often very difficult for people to sit down and explain feelings like that (she may not even know exactly why herself). You could suggest she write you a letter explaining things.

The benefit of this is she will have time to think about the why, and can take the time to write it as she means - often in a face to face conversation you get distracted, say things not quite right etc. Also, she will get to say what she says without you interrupting - so she can write down points A.B & C without having to stop and discuss point A.

I am not sure how your relationshiop started, but if there were love letters, cards or poetry in the beginning, pull it out and read through it together. The wife and i still love to read the emails we sent each other as friends.

Man, all the best. I hope things work out for you and your family.