[Arledrian]

Personally, I think you're just fine in being that way. I'm the same way, I'm introvert and as a result, have grown up to be pretty self-absorbed because I've only ever had myself to worry about, which others interpret as selfishness. You absolutely do have to sort yourself out above all else though, because at the end of the day, you're all you've got, and being too nice and giving in life can very often shaft you up the rear end. So I don't think there's anything wrong with you being the way you are, Shadowhound. Others may not always like it, but at least you know you're self-reliant and can manage just fine with or without them.