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Originally posted by catzenpewters:
Hmmm... here's a female perspective:
There are a lot of 'gentlemanly' gestures like getting the car door or pulling out your chair or whatever that have gone out of style as some women consider it their feminist duty to point out that they're perfectly capable of doing it htemselves. I partially agree - I'm capable of standing, opening doors and moving chairs. But that doesn't mean I don't appreciate the courtesy - my assumption is that one the guy is trying to be polite (and impress), not that he thinks me incapable of doing it myself! I also want the guy to be able to handle it if I get the door for HIM (although I confess the thought of pulling out a chair for a date has never crossed my mind).
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You're right. It's a matter of respect and not that we believe women to be incapable.
One of the reasons I ask this question is that I find it difficult to get a woman to take my seat on the bus. So, being stubborn about it, I stand anyhow and let the seat remain empty until she takes it. However, now I have resorted to calculating how many women will get on after me and if there are not enough seats I won’t take one in the first place. I’ll just stand and let everyone go by. Boy sometimes it’s difficult to be polite.