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Originally posted by Fljotsdale:
The main reason most of us fail to tell people things they need to know is lack of courage (IMO), rather than anything else.
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Fljotsdale, I can't let you say that ! When I was younger, one of my faults was to be 'too honest', that is I would say what I thought to people, whatever the context. I learned that you have to pay attention to whether now is the good time to say something to someone, and if that someone is in the mood to receive what you have to say. If you say something to someone not receptive to hear it, he will just close his mind like an oyster.
I maintain, if I had a couple of friends and I learned that one of them was cheating on the other, I would NOT say anything to the one cheated upon, UNLESS I felt a real demand from him/her, but I WOULD repeatedly urge the cheater to make things clear to his/her partner.
I had such a couple of friends several years ago, the girl was the cheater and she told me so, I kept and kept telling her she had to choose between her two guys and she finally did.
She said that she had started cheating because he was spending too much time in bars drinking beer. He said that he spent time in bars because she came home later and later every evening. I will never know who started what, and more, I am pretty sure both were honest in their own memories.
Yorick, what prompted this poll ?
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