If this is your first time (or second) playing BG2, I suggest you go without mods for a while. Not only is the "all strongholds" mod buggy, but if it works right, you're going to be spending most of Chapter 3 being run ragged when ~7 runners and messengers tag-team you to go solve their stronghold's problems.
And if you're worried about etiquette, Dundee Slaytern wrote an FAQ and made it a sticky post at the top of the forum. Read that and follow up on the links inside, particularly the one called Volothamp's Comeuppance.
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