Ugh, that was awful to hear, hope you have speedy, and successful recovery.
Here in Iceland there are laws against the kind of "personal spying" you are having trouble with, if you were here you could reposrt to
Persónuvernd (Personal protection Agency) and your employer would have a heaps of trouble on his hands.
I have no idea if there is the equvilent of that in the US (not with Bush as a president I guess) but I hope you find something