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drew_jarvie · 01-30-2004, 06:17 PM

Bullying is truely one of the most depressing and sorrowful things in life. It is appaling and when you analyse what is actually happening it seems so petty and un-needed you wonder why people do it.

But first things first. You NEED to support your sister, it will be very difficult for her at the moment. Also, if she has any friends that are fully behind her (i.e not using these insults in a harmful way) perhaps you could try talking to them on a serious note and try to talk them into supporting her. You need to find from your sister who she trusts and if these trustworthy friends can prove reliable in her time of need, you should try to convince them to stop using this name(s) even at a jest and that it needs to stop here and now.

Also, Im not sure which country you are from but here in Scotland, we have a guidance system within the school which people can go to to seek help on personal matters. If your school has this teacher, it might be an idea to have a serious yet small and passing reference to this bullying to your guidance teacher ; this may prove to be a power of good. If such a teacher does not exist in the country you live in, consult a teacher you can trust of these events.

As far as violence in concerned, do NOT resort to it unless necessary, certainly not if you know the people have other, more powerful people fighting in their corner.

It has been mentionned before in this thread how every just accepts bullying with the "phew" factor when people realise it is not them being bullied and just ignore it, so that the attention is not focussed on them. It is a factor off life that people will try to stay neutral with most people to avoid conflict and so to interfere in a war of words (or one sided as the case may be) is truly a brave gesture and one of true courage.

So overall dude, be there for her but do not pressurise her into anything. It is highly likely that this issue will clear over once the next "big gossip" circulates around the school and all will be dwarfed by the tide of more present issues. Such lesbian and gay accusations are harmless though and it may be worth inquiring further to see how serious this slagging is. Also, after such a day at school she will probably be looking forward to coming home so try and make her feel like she is safe and enjoys it.

I wish all the best to you and your sister.

Drew...

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[ 01-30-2004, 06:18 PM: Message edited by: drew_jarvie ]

01-30-2004, 06:17 PM	#17
drew_jarvie Zhentarim Guard Join Date: October 28, 2003 Location: Aberdeen Age: 35 Posts: 300	Bullying is truely one of the most depressing and sorrowful things in life. It is appaling and when you analyse what is actually happening it seems so petty and un-needed you wonder why people do it. But first things first. You NEED to support your sister, it will be very difficult for her at the moment. Also, if she has any friends that are fully behind her (i.e not using these insults in a harmful way) perhaps you could try talking to them on a serious note and try to talk them into supporting her. You need to find from your sister who she trusts and if these trustworthy friends can prove reliable in her time of need, you should try to convince them to stop using this name(s) even at a jest and that it needs to stop here and now. Also, Im not sure which country you are from but here in Scotland, we have a guidance system within the school which people can go to to seek help on personal matters. If your school has this teacher, it might be an idea to have a serious yet small and passing reference to this bullying to your guidance teacher ; this may prove to be a power of good. If such a teacher does not exist in the country you live in, consult a teacher you can trust of these events. As far as violence in concerned, do NOT resort to it unless necessary, certainly not if you know the people have other, more powerful people fighting in their corner. It has been mentionned before in this thread how every just accepts bullying with the "phew" factor when people realise it is not them being bullied and just ignore it, so that the attention is not focussed on them. It is a factor off life that people will try to stay neutral with most people to avoid conflict and so to interfere in a war of words (or one sided as the case may be) is truly a brave gesture and one of true courage. So overall dude, be there for her but do not pressurise her into anything. It is highly likely that this issue will clear over once the next "big gossip" circulates around the school and all will be dwarfed by the tide of more present issues. Such lesbian and gay accusations are harmless though and it may be worth inquiring further to see how serious this slagging is. Also, after such a day at school she will probably be looking forward to coming home so try and make her feel like she is safe and enjoys it. I wish all the best to you and your sister. Drew... EDIT) Spelling [ 01-30-2004, 06:18 PM: Message edited by: drew_jarvie ] __________________ Plan to be spantaneous tommorow...