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Continuing on the subject of girls, make sure you ask them out immediately after you receive the inclination to do so. When you wait, you form additional, unfounded feelings for them and end up putting them on a pedestal. I learned the hard way that this is unhealthy.
Now, when I ask someone out, it isn’t to obtain a girlfriend or whatever. I do so because I either find them attractive or because I like something about them. If they say no, there are no hard feelings because I don’t care yet and have not invested any time into them. If they say yes, I use the opportunity to learn about them before I develop and form of feelings.
Often times I have found that when you want to ask someone out and you do not, you become very disappointed with the person you find her to be. You invest a lot of time building them up in your mind, and after you have done this, rarely can someone live up to the expectations you conjure.
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