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Originally posted by AzRaeL StoRmBlaDe:
People like that are stupid. The whole my husband beats me but I "love" him. Thats absolutely ridiculous. I wouldn't do anything but if you want to do something ask her exactly what she "loves" about him that she loves him so much. Usually that will stump somone in that assinine situation, and maybe if they really are smart, they will realize that they don't "love" the persona anymore. I find alot of the time when this is the situation that its more just that they have been with the person a long time and that they are very insecure, and that by being with somone its like a security blanket, and they love that blanket, just not the person. You've been talking to her for like a month though, I think thats a little soon to be trying to encourage her to drop her boyfriend. I can understand you care and all, but Do you really have her trust enough that she will listen to you? probably not
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Brilliantly put! On all counts. [img]graemlins/thumbsup.gif[/img]
If you lack the will to improve your circumstances so be it, but do not complain about the unfairness of your situation. And like you said Azrael often it is the security of having that partner that people in these situations love, not the partner themselves.
There is no such thing as a victim.
And yes, Jorath, if you would like my advice (and you
did ask for it, albeit indirectly) then I would have to say that you are attaching yourself to this person FAR too early. You don't even know who she really is. It is incredibly easy to give people a false impression of who you really are over the internet. If she was a personal acquaintence, then maybe I could understand your concern for her, but for all you know she could be a 40 year old male bricklayer from South Carolina having a laugh at your expense. Excercise caution my friend...