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Originally posted by Jorath Calar:
Ugh, I need help... I absolutly have no idea what to do, or even if I should bother meddling in this at all, it could either mean "lovers" reunited or which is just much more likely, a utter tragedy and a broken heart for a person who definetly does not deserve it...
Here is the story...
for about a month now I have been talking to a girl from Brazil on Icq, very smart, and fun girl who at first always seemed very happy, but about a week and a half ago she told me about her boyfriend who lives in Sweden and she was going to move to him soon. But the stories she told me about him were not very nice, he is very rude and sometimes they would fight and once he almost hit her. she also told me he has many times hacked into her computer to see who she is chatting to and said she has the right to do it but she does not... he also has threatened her many times and many such weird things... but amazingly she still loves him. Great, then last weekend she tells me she thinks he is avoiding her and not even returning her phonecalls... and today she said his sister had told her he was maybe thinking of dumping her but didn't want to tell heryet and was therefore avoiding her... and here is the "punchline" she said she is going to go to sweden anyway and even sooner than she planned to see him and try to "fix" their relationship... somehow I have the feeling it's just going to end badly... and I have tried to tell her how bad I think this is going to end but she says she still loves him and just has to try...
I havn't known her for long time and don't know if I should do anything but just thinking about whats giong to happen when she gets to Sweden just scares me...
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People like that are stupid. The whole my husband beats me but I "love" him. Thats absolutely ridiculous. I wouldn't do anything but if you want to do something ask her exactly what she "loves" about him that she loves him so much. Usually that will stump somone in that assinine situation, and maybe if they really are smart, they will realize that they don't "love" the persona anymore. I find alot of the time when this is the situation that its more just that they have been with the person a long time and that they are very insecure, and that by being with somone its like a security blanket, and they love that blanket, just not the person. You've been talking to her for like a month though, I think thats a little soon to be trying to encourage her to drop her boyfriend. I can understand you care and all, but Do you really have her trust enough that she will listen to you? probably not