[Bungleau]

I'll mix both prevailing views. Speak up, and let her know your position and opinion. But she will have to do what she thinks is best and right, which may mean that she will go to him.

Sad to say, but we don't always recognize (or want to recognize) what's best for us. She may be, on one level, thinking that this time, he's serious about changing, that this time is going to be different, that this time it will work.

Problem is, the definition of insanity: doing the same thing and expecting different results. Unless he's going to therapy or counseling or doing something actively to manage his side of it, the results will be the same.

Many times, we hold on hope for the best outcome and are reluctant to accept the worst. There may not have come a time yet like Harley's "almost hit" that makes her decide that enough is enough.

Your best bet is to speak your piece and be there when she needs you. That doesn't mean it will be easy, but it will be best.