[harleyquinn]

Sorry guys, don't agree with you. Speaking as someone that was in that exact type of relationship with a guy for three years. I finally wised up when he almost hit me.
I would have left him years earlier except that since none of my friends were speaking up to tell me that they thought he was treating me badly I was convinced that he was treating me like I deserved to be treated. That it was my fault that he had to control my every movement. This is not an exaggeration, from how I slept, to how I dressed, to how I walked, showered, which garbage can I used, making sure I used mouthwash by measuring what was in the bottle, monitoring my phone calls, not allowing my friends over ....
Had just one of my friends spoken up, I would have had the strength to leave because someone was on my side.
SPEAK UP!! She may be upset with you now, but trust me, when she sees the truth, she'll remember that you were a good friend.
I'm speaking from experience, I really wish someone had said something to me at that time. It would have saved me from a lot of therapy and pain. I now have an agreement with my friends that they are to say something if they ever see me in a relationship like that.

[ 07-30-2003, 08:55 AM: Message edited by: harleyquinn ]