When I enter the Delryn home, manor, whatever, and find Cor Delryn. He says, about every 3 seconds, "Who are you? Get out of my house!"
This is keeping me from completing Anomen's quest to find out aobuth is sister. Am I missing something or is the game seriously out of whack?

This is a bug I've heard of before. You might want to download the patch, you can find it at Bioware's site.

I had a similar weird problem going into one of the temples, everyone but the head honcho was fine but as soon as my main character went near him he went "red" and everyone started to attack me.
What I did was go invisible, talk to him and run away before he could go red (boots o' speed).

Thanks. The patch didn't work though, and I lost Anomen because he refused to go further without visiting his family. Whiny brat that he is, I perfer to have a good aligned cleric than the evil Viconia. Mainly because it's expensive to keep my rep up if I have to shift her in and out.

I don't suppose there's anywhere to meet up with Anomen again is there?

Besides, I'm playing a female and this is the only chance at romance I get.

Yes the "laydees" were rather short changed on the romance front I think. Not that I've played out that side o' things myself, both my parties were entirely created by me, no NPCs !.
But I reckon I'm gonna try a party with just my main dude created by me after some prompting from the board.