I have heard you guys speaking about this ring and since im playing bg 2 now at second time i would like to know what i have missed.
So is there a golem ring in BG2

There are a couple of rings that relate to golems. The one that's probably discussed the most is the ring of earth control which is +1 AC (stackable with other rings and magic armor) and let's you charm earth elementals once a day (it may let you summon a golem once a day or some such thing as well). You can find it in Nalia's keep.