Posting here because no one on the other boards will help me. ICQ me to if you can help

Ok i started a new game after i beat it to explore some missed areas and NPC's. now i really want jaheira as my Romance. i bought her a necklace and i completed the Harper quest where Xzar dies. no one hsa come to get her. no other events have unfolded. and i am out of the Drow city now. the harper quest was the FIRST thing i did so i got the timer started early. will everyone give me any info they can on the romance. any console commands what they do or even tips to get things rolling. e-mail me or post. thanks BG communitee.

Oh and artemis Enteri i hear is in teh game with the kill bodhi part. but he wasnt in my game :0( tips?