I am looking to build a druid/shifter/Dwaraven Defender.. But I am not sure what stats I should start with.. I know I can get all the classes I need by like 11 or so..but I have never used a shifter in build before.. want to be tough to kill. any suggestions or tips???

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Some advice for that type of build is before level 20 make sure all you have your levels in multiples of 4. This will help you get the best BAB (Base Attack bonus). For Example 12 Druid/4 Dwarven Defender/4 Shifter.

Pump up your wisdom at every level and get as amny great wisdom feats as possible so you can get the great shifter feats.

Alot of people go Druid/Shifter/Monk due to the AC bonus they get from the monk and his Wisdom modifier.

In addition to the official NWN forums that have alot of threads about character builds, there is also a shifter guide over at GameFaqs.com.

From my limited knowledge of shape shifters, I can only suggest that you leave your combat stats (STR, DEX, CON) pretty low if you plan on being shape shifted most of the time. Most of those stats are overridden when you take other forms, so concentrate instead on INT, WIS, & CHA unless you want to get certain combat feats that have prerequisites (Power Attack, Cleave).