What do I do about stronghlds I don't want?

1)I hate the Thief one. Can I lose it somehow?
2)I have a problem with the Druid one:
a) I had no idea it would be my character (a non-druid) competing against Faldorn
b) After beating her, I was told I could take control of the grove after becoming a high druid (or something like that). Will this ever happen for a F/M/T?

TIA

1) you can reject the offer for the stronghold such as thief
2) You still would be at an advantage, have your allies try get as close to you in the circle and help you (i thought it was optional for your party members to do so)
after beating her, if you have the all stronghold component installed, you should recieve the stronghold no matter what class i believe.

The thief stronghold is not a good one. I never take it myself.

If you wish to roleplay your way through these things than you would only accept strongholds if one of your party members would qualify for it. Thus I only take the druid stronghold if Jaheira or Cernd is in my party (I just realized I have NEVER played a druid) if you don’t want a particular stronghold…or cant’ RP a reason to take it then leave it

I like the thief stronghold myself. but if you don't then besides just rejecting it you can lose it a different way like have it go bankrupt or put all your thieves in jail...

As far as the druid grove goes, I believe your character needs to be level 14 to get it.

I wouldn't want the Druid Grove Stronghold(DGS) even if it was free. In fact, I wish there was a mod where you could throw the DGS back into their faces.

You will soon learn to hate this mod. It will nag you to distraction. The thief and the bard strongholds are particularly nagsome.
All you have to do to lose a stronghold is not do the micromanageing....you will soon be fired from being the leader.

Kill everyone. Always works. Exept on the scripted immortals.