alright I finally downloaded shadow keeper and I am using it just to play through each of the romances, but how do you make them go faster? specifically Jahiera? thanks

I don't think you use SK for that. Just use control+i if you have cheats enabled. Just keep pressing control+i over and over. I'm not sure how well that will work, though, cuz sometimes you need certain events to occur before they can advance.

There's global variable timers in SK that you can set to '1' to make them happen immediately.

Look for "*romancecharname*romancetimer" and set it to 1.

That should make your next dialogue happen instantly.

I dont think ctrl-i does the trick, it only forces your npcs to interact most of the time.
I heard that frame rate helps, i tried it before but it didnt seem to work that well, or maybe i fumbled my romance......
Riftmaker is right i think, though I dont know the exact command.

Just open shadow keeper, load your save game (make sure it isn't autosave or quicksave) scroll over to global variables, and look for the variable:

*charname*ROMANCE

Set that to 1, and it will cause the next interaction to take place immediately.