I have had nalia in my party but the hold is still grayed out and i cannot get there,now she says it is under attack and has left my party. how do i get there??

You have to go to the "City Gates" first.

first advice. Explore my friend at least think of a solution. of course its just a suggestion for u to enjoy more at least u will have sense of fullfillment. now for the answer, best way to go to other places in athkatla of course is to leave the city. so go to the city gates and whammm! all place marked on your map will highlight and ready for adventuring.

i have been to the city gates,that is where she left from

Armisael, once again you impress me. Usually it is with your ever courteous willingness to help people and answer their questions, no matter how many times those questions have been asked. Now you make me smile again, with your ability to present a clever and witty ripost'e.