Hmmm, what do you guy's think of this?
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<font color=skyblue>I'll go on record to say that I have two daughters and the next baby we have in three to four years will be our last...and I do not care if it is a boy or a girl. I love my girls and would love to have a third. </font>
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My teenage daughter is challenging, but my spousal unit has endeared much greater a battle. Or, was it a well desrved break?
Anyhow, I have found the lack of deployments, and wars to fight to be way more taxing than ever a girl named Tina could be! |
::adjusts Mistress of Language spectacles:: The plural of girl is girls, Hive...
It's certainly food for thought, though. I think I'll bring this up in my psych of gender class... It'll make for interesting conversation. |
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Hogwash! I have 1 daughter who is 20 and 2 daughters who are 17. I've been married for 23 years - no plans for divorce here. ;)
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Look, first off some of the percentages, such a 5%, are not major deviations.
Second, the reasoning for this is simple. It's not that sons glue marriages together, it's that one woman is hard enough to live with, let alone multiple ones... each with their own "issues".... and both of them tending to fight fairly often, as women - especially mothers and daughters - are apt to do. |
<font color=plum>Well, I have to agree with <font color=white>machinehead</font> that their speculation seems to be a bunch of poppycock.
My wife and I planned on having two children and - just like <font color=cyan>Larry</font> - we didn't care what gender we got. After we had two boys, people kept saying "You should try for a girl", but we weren't planning on having any more. "Besides" my wife said "with my luck I would end up with "My Three Sons". And sure enough, that is exactly what happened. [img]graemlins/biglaugh.gif[/img] The only part of the article I saw that seemed fairly logical was the point that single women might not feel the "need" to remarry as strongly if they have a daughter instead of a son. I DO think the suggestion that women feel their sons would need a male role model is correct. Of course, the same would be true for single fathers with daughters. This is a much rarer occurance, but it does happen. I believe any single parent with an opposite gender child would be worried about whether they could meet all of the childs emotional needs, whereas they would feel more comfortable and confident they could meet the needs of a same-gender child.</font> |
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it is the reason why i have been working, or trying to work, hard at my relationship with nathan, to provide my girls with the best possible mother *and* father. i don't think one parent can be better than the other, if one is failing then the other is too. the relationship between parents needs to be as nurturing as the one between a parent and child.</font> |
One of my best friends is one of three girls and her parent's never divorced! Her dad died a few years ago but til his dying day he was happy in his marriage so I'd have to say their family goes against the article's assumptions.
My dad's parent's had a girl too and never divorced, and that aunt of mine had four BOYS and she divorced. My husband's parents had a girl and are still married....sooo, dunno, mine did but hey, that's only one for 4 in my experience! ROTFL at this part Quote:
LOL as for 'being more fun to be around'....um, I know soooooooooooo many parent's of 20+ boys who would love to kick their sons out of the house to find work and be productive on their own.... LOL Now, that's not to say that there aren't any good boys or unpleasant daughters out there that fit the 'findings' too, just that I'm not seeing as much in my own experience to back it up! :D [ 07-05-2005, 09:01 AM: Message edited by: Cloudbringer ] |
If these numbers mean anything (and TL is right that 5% is statistically insignificant assuming the standard methodology), that meaning isn't really hard to extrapolate imo. There is a worldwide gender bias that varies culturally, and less precisely, nationally. That isn't really a matter of debate, is it? We could go through cultural differences in kinship, expectations, rights to work, vote, etc by gender, but I'm counting that as a safe assumption at the moment.
Note, for example, just from the nations given, more gender equality makes for a lower gender bias for divorces. Why is Vietnam divorce by gender so high, and the US's is insignificant? I'd say, if the numbers check out, gender bias is an imprecise but entirely feasible assertion. I think, without being given the actual report, the numbers shouldn't be dismissed outright from individual experience. Individual accounts don't matter until you get several thousand diverse respondants, so comparing it to your known reality, even the hundreds of people that you know, will be misleading. Note that when I say gender bias...that's a general term representing social inequality, nothing so stupid as "Boys are more fun to have around." lol [img]smile.gif[/img] |
Boys can carry down the family name. Girls can not. This is very important in some cultures like mine. That's why upon several birth if the wife still couldn't give birth to a boy the husband parents will force him to divorce the wife and marry another.
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[ 07-05-2005, 11:02 PM: Message edited by: Kakero ] |
Illumina, you said what I was just going to say! It isn't the woman who determines the gender of the child so it's been pretty ironic that historically she's been blamed when a boy child isn't born!
Kakero, best of luck in your situation. Just one thing though, keep in mind that the older your prospective bride gets, the harder it will be to conceive at all, never mind the chosen gender preference. If she's the same age you are, things get much harder in about 3 yrs as fertility rates drop significantly for many women after 30. PS: Lucern, an individual's experience is just as valid to that person as vague statistics without any backup. [img]smile.gif[/img] I think it is as valid to those experiencing it, at any rate! :D Besides, some researcher somewhere will just use our situations to prove the rule- exceptions and all that jazz! :D [ 07-06-2005, 08:54 AM: Message edited by: Cloudbringer ] |
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I was a surprise [img]graemlins/hehe.gif[/img] |
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So, it wouldn't be that odd if the family name followed the female. Alas, it does not. |
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Chiu Ci Bei(man) marry Mo Nen Nen(woman) The chidren will have the Chiu surname. Tell me is it different where you live? I really wonder... [ 07-06-2005, 12:40 PM: Message edited by: Kakero ] |
No, it is the same where we live, except the surname is last. My children, for instance, will be Loftis's -- despite the fact that Rain has no last name. [img]graemlins/heee.gif[/img]
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I read elsewhere that the claims of the researchers were wholly incongruous with this article's exploration. They say, and they have every right to based on the numbers they have, that they found a 'correlative' link between divorce and the gender of children. That simply means that the numbers show a relationship within the (unknown from this article) parameters. It doesn't reveal the nature of that relationship, just that there is one. They specifically say there are no grounds for a causal relationship between the two based on the data they have. What's the title of that article? "Do Daughters Cause Divorce?" Hmph. :D The causal relationship is not established. Perhaps more variables like number and ages of children, and average family income would reveal similar correlations that are more informative together. I really doubt the usefulness of any single variable in explaining causes of the termination of such complex relationships. And it's uncommon to cite contradictory information to support your conclusions, contrary to the common phrase ;) |
As a brother of three girls (two older,one younger) and now living with another two young girls I know that girls tend to argue and fight A LOT! Seriously every other family with daughters I know of also fight alot while the boys tend to not fight. Girls are more demanding it seems
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Most of this gender 'research' is subject to agenda based distortion... I take the vast majority of it with a grain of salt.
I'd love to have a girl, my wife is happy with two boys. She believes girls are harder to raise, and maybe she's right but I think that perhaps most of her opinion is based on her difficult relationship with her mother. I wonder if the (well documented) problems many women have with their mothers isn't the root cause of these sorts of 'reports', although for the life of me I can't see how mother/daughter conflict would significantly affect the divorce rate. Perhaps the husband sides with the daughter once too often and it's splitsville. [img]smile.gif[/img] |
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Can't live with 'em, can't chop em up in little pieces and bury 'em in the rose garden. [img]smile.gif[/img] But then on the flip side a woman never shot a man while he was washing dishes. [img]smile.gif[/img] |
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Sometimes them thar old wives hit the nail on the head. |
Lordy, lordy ,lordy it's basic common sense girls's cause die-vorces.
If'n thar taint no girls's thar sure as "Hale" taint no marry-ages, after one generation. |
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