Well my bf and I split up at the weekend. We had lived together for nearly 11 years. I'm very miserable, I need cheering up. I don't know what to do with myself. :(

Well, if you need cheering up, then I suggest you look at all of the things you have to be happy about, you're a nice person, you're intelligent, you're wise, those are things that you should be happy about [img]smile.gif[/img] .

And also, remember that you've got LOADS of friends here at IW no matter what happens [img]smile.gif[/img] .

Epona,

I am so sorry. No matter under what circumstances a long-standing relationship ends, it is at best difficult. There is always a grieving process. Please, take care. Time helps many things.

*hugs*

Reeka

awwww poor Epona! *hugs*
HEY! we need support here!
Bring in the *hug* club members for a group hug!
Epona you guys were together for 11 years! Wow that's quite amazing. I'm sure you will work something out.
If you wnat to talk to me about it then just email me.

*hugs*

**HUGS** it's ok, it'll get better, I know, I got dumped a few weeks ago too, but like neb said, look at all the good things you have going for you, and don't concentrate on the negatives.

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Epona:
Well my bf and I split up at the weekend. We had lived together for nearly 11 years. I'm very miserable, I need cheering up. I don't know what to do with myself. :( <hr></blockquote>

Donut dons his cheering up hat.

Hey Hon! I gotta joke.


Tony Blair is being shown around a hospital. He comes to a ward full of people who seem to have nothing wrong with them. He goes to the first bed and says "Well, how are you." The patient looks him straight in the eye and says "The best lay schemes of mice and men gang aft aglay!". Tony smiles politely, and walks to the next bed, where the patient greets him with a hearty "Och, gi'us a gift, the gift he gi'us, to see ourselves as other's see us." Slightly confused, Tony tries to strike up a conversation with yet another inmate, but this one just mutters "Och, my luv's like a red, red, rose that's newly sprung in June" repeatedly.

"Is this the psychiatric ward?" says Tony.

"No," the ward sister replies. "It's the burns unit."

Feeble attempt. [img]smile.gif[/img]

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Epona:
Well my bf and I split up at the weekend. We had lived together for nearly 11 years. I'm very miserable, I need cheering up. I don't know what to do with myself. :( <hr></blockquote>

Sorry to hear that Epona. 11 years certainly is a long time. I can't imagine staying with anyone for that long! But it must have been good, otherwise I guess it wouldn't have lasted that long.

On the bright side, once you've come to terms with it and feel better - lots of new doors of opportunity will open. I'm not necessarily talking about the relationship front here, unless that's what you what - but just think of the extra time to do wonderfully creative and nurturing things all for your own self!

I've split up from several long term b/f's in the past, and after the initial periods (which is horrible) I always found that being by self opened up exciting new avenues.

Sorry if this isn't very helpful... maybe best if I shut up at this point - here are lots of very heartfelt *hugs* from Mand.

Oh Epona! I'm so sorry to hear that! I know things have been rocky but I didn't realize it was this bad. :( After 11 yrs, it's understandable you're very miserable! This will take time to heal. Please stay in touch and we'll all talk and try to laugh a little and help if we can. I always figured a relationship that lasted that long must have a darn good chance of going on forever... :( But then again, people change and you may find that you will feel better able to cope with things as you go on.

Hey.. for some fun, go read Saz's little mind-puzzle on the Christmas Carol titles. [img]smile.gif[/img] http://www.ironworksforum.com/ubb/cg...&f=10&t=005694

he has a link to the answer thread at the end.

Cheer up even just a wee bit, we're here and we care!! *HUG*

Cloudy

That is terrible, I'm so sorry to hear this, Epona!
It must be so difficult to split up after so many years, when your lives are entwined so closely :(
I just PM'ed you... Hope you will be well
*hugs*

Dear Epona,

Mere words are not enough to console you, I know. Just know that I feel deeply for your loss and the sorrow you are going through right now, and that I'm sending you a huge virtual {{{{HUG}}}} through the "wires".

Allow yourself to grieve over this. Don't let people tell you to "get over it"...do whatever you need to mourn the passing of this relationship.

Know that we all care very much for you.

Hugs,
-Sazerac

P.S. Donut, that joke was HILARIOUS! I'm still snickering over it! [img]graemlins/hehe.gif[/img]