Alright, heres the situation. My girlfriend, cheated on me once, i forgave her, she cheats on me again. I get a "little" POed at her, pop the kid in the dome-peice and figured that would end my problem with him, WRONG!!! She breaks up with me two hours later for giving a girl a hug cuz she had a bad day. Not only that, but now she's harrasing me about my new GF! The nerve!! If she wasnt a girl, i'd knock her so hard.............but i'd never hit a girl out of anger,she knows that,and she's useing it to her advantage. Help me please! If you guys need more info to help and i'll happily tell you all you need to know.

Thanks,
DA

DA, this is long and deep and I'll take a stab with what you gave us.. It sounds like major control issues on her part, i.e., she can say and do as she pleases but anyone else's boundaries she runs over them like a tank. Am I close here? She is the kind that can tell others no but doesn't respect other people's no. She doesn't like it. Am I even close?

You are going to have to as best you can to severe all ties. There is no compromise here because she can't/won't accept it. You can't reason with somebody in that frame of mind.

Hmm, are you the type of person who like to forget and get over things? or do you prefer a little revenge first?

Seriously, don't take that type of shit. Tell her to screw off, if she continues, then talk to her boyfriends, if they fight back, whoop them. Its not nice, but neither is she.

[ 12-06-2005, 08:16 PM: Message edited by: Sir Degrader ]

I wouldnt have stayed with her after she cheated on me the first time, forget about her completely cut all ties and focus on your current gf.

Maybe if you just ignore her eventually she will give it up and go away. In other words, run from the toxic pool, don't jump into it, as Sir Degrader would have you do LOL.

Fight fire with fire. In essence, if she keeps it up, set her house ablaze. I'm joking of course. LZ is right. In most cases, ignore her. If she persists, THEN you have a problem, and a large one. Talk to a lawyer regarding harrasment, or her husband (my option).

[ 12-06-2005, 08:35 PM: Message edited by: Sir Degrader ]

ROTFL, see what I'm sayin? [img]graemlins/hehe.gif[/img] :rolleyes:

LOL, Sir D edited so now I have to as well ROTFL.

Ahem, yes best to just leave it, ignore it, run far away from it and any of its companions. Hopefully she'll find some other victim and will leave you alone, and your girlfriends alone.

I remember once I had this boyfriend I broke up with, and he kinda followed me everywhere I went on the weekends after the breakup (and I was in a small town so it was pretty easy to find anyone with only a few hangout spots around). If I had a date, he would go up to them and do some weird preachy thing about treating me right and crap. Sometimes when I visited a friend of mine he'd show up, just to say HI, etc. etc. He also one time showed up at my house during the summer late morning when school was out, and since I lived in the sticks the house door wasn't always locked, and he'd show up, just walk in the house to visit me for some odd reason, would walk right into my bedroom while I was sleeping in late. Gah it got insane and I remember that time I just told him flat out "I don't love you ****". He got all teary and ran out the door, blah. Anyways, mostly what I did after our breakup, even amongst all his stalking, was to just try to avoid him. If I saw him I'd go somewhere else, and eventually he found another girlfriend, and eventually got married! So the avoidance did the trick. [img]smile.gif[/img]

[ 12-06-2005, 08:50 PM: Message edited by: ladyzekke ]

Well if you are desperate I know some people who know some people who for the right price... ;)

I think I'm in the 'don't look for trouble' line on this one and agree with LadyZ. Try to stay away from her til she finds something else to be involved in rather than your life! [img]smile.gif[/img]

Hmm. Well. I'd look at it like this. First I'd have broken up with her the first time she cheated on me. Next I'd sever all ties with her and give her the cold shoulder. I wouldn't deal with that crap, dude. And as for your current situation, focus on your current girl, and ignore the crazy who's bugging you. Let your current girlfriend know that despite your ex going nuts on you (Maybe she has some strange obsession and wants you back?) that you're not going to let it ruin your relationship with her.

Or go up to the crazy girl and work that pimp hand! KER SLAP! Just joking, of course. ;) Good luck, man!

She sounds like a nice enough girl, can i have her phonenumber ? [img]graemlins/hehe.gif[/img]

LOL Johnny! I have a phone number some scary guy who walked up to me in the middle of the street gave to me when I was 16--his name that came with the number was 'Lestor the Molestor'!! (shudders at the bad memory). :eek:

As to the topic at hand:
I actually had a very similar situation back when I first started college quite a few years ago. I do not know how you felt about this girlfriend, but I was crazy about mine. When she cheated on me, I forgave her, figuring everyone deserves to make at least one mistake.

However, when she (falsely) accused me of cheating on her and began harassing me, I officially and publically (she was yelling at me in the middle of the campus) broke our fling off and severed all ties.

The cold shoulder worked like a champ! After a short time of her making an ass of herself with no response from me, the stopped having anything to do with me.

Now that I think about that girl, she was a real "B" with and "ITCH" :D Hope everything goes well with you!

Rule #1 with women is learning to shut the hell up about your personal life with them. if you did make up with this girl, now there's a whole community of online people who know she whored around, and you took it like a little beatch. How could it ever work now? Most people never learn how to keep the personal crap, well, personal.

well... he *was* asking for advice on the matter....

And, personally, Iwould have to agree with Lady Z on this. Ignore her the best you can, either she will get bored, will get laughed at, or just get angry and go away. Either way, you win ;)

You can always start telling everyone she's a bad kisser (or worse..!!), or pretend she has other physical difficiencies.

Yeah, Kyrvias, I know, and Lady Z gave her usual sage advice. Plus, any post containing Kung Fu Gal is a good thing, by its very nature.

Regardless, I see people do this all the time. They talk about their problems with their mate, only to regret it later. Think about it. If you are able to work through the doozie issues with your mate, do you really want people to know what you went through? Trust me, you'll feel much better on the back side of these things if you just learn how to STFU. My 2 cents.

ROFLMAO!

My late tuppence... Cold shoulder all the way, but be sure to talk with your current GF about it. Otherwise, the old one may decide to use that bit of info as blackmail evidence, so to speak... go out with me, or I'll tell her all about you.

I had a psycho GF once. I'm still not sure where reality ended and fiction began... and since part of that reality/fiction involved one of the local mafia families, I decided not to find out anything more about it.

I had a run in with her 2nd man today, exchanged a few words,then i layed him flat with with one well placed punch right to the nose!!!! It felt good.He was cheating on his girlfriend like mine was cheating on me! So now i have his old girlfriend and he has mine!! She said she was calling the cops cuz i hit him. I was like, whatever.She is still goin crazy, she called me 10 min ago to yell at me for who i'm dateing now!!!

Are you another one of our Kentucky members, perchance? Sounds too much like the trailer park dramas I experienced, oh, decades ago.

Yeah okay dude the whole punching him in the face thing? Bad move. It's just gonna dig a deeper and deeper hole. And I really can't tell what you mean by the rest of the things you said. Like I said, if you ignore her and whoever else she has on your back, things will be fine, it doesn't mean to go out and pick fights, even if they try to pick them with you. It doesn't help the situation.

You were supposed to ignore her AND her people DrowArchMage! Sigh. Now she's gonna be on you like stink on ****! [img]graemlins/hehe.gif[/img]

Timber, you need to put the new URL in over here for your sig, it's not showing (may still show to you though via your cache). [img]smile.gif[/img]

I did change it, Lady Z. Don't know whassup.

No you didn't. I clearly see the address as your old ranchoweb account LOL.

So wait a second, why did you actually punch this guy?

I can see your sig fine Timber ;)

I would suggest you take solace in...yes internet porn

http://www.youtube.com/watch.php?v=lr_HR-iIlYg

I take offense to that, Timber! [img]tongue.gif[/img]
And I would blame his actions on youth and hormones, rather than the great state of Kentucky... Ok, yeah, so we're trailer-trash. Oh well, I had to at least make some small attempt to defend my home, lol. [img]smile.gif[/img]

Rally not from Kentucky. From Michigan. The reason was this.
He started talking crap about how i must've been a dick to her and i dont deserve her and yadda yadda. Then he went a step further and started calling my new GF names.Thats what set me off. These we really nasty names just to let you know. I had just had too much crap that day.

So nobody pressed any charges and you got away with the punch then?

Also, how's things now? Your situation is pretty good gossipy type entertainment, like reading the Enquirer. Headline -- "DrowArchMage Loses It! Punches Rival!" - page 6.

I want to hear more LOL. :D

[ 12-08-2005, 08:36 PM: Message edited by: ladyzekke ]

I'd read that ;)

and, despite the name calling, violence is never the answer. Good old fashioned black mailing on the other hand, can cause so much more damage :D

No charges were pressed,he's too afraid of me now.My old GF came up to me today and asked me to break up with my current Gf and go back out with her.I stared at her for a moment,then started laughing,the look on her face was halarous!

She probably thought you were fighting that guy for her LOL. Doh! [img]tongue.gif[/img] [img]graemlins/hehe.gif[/img]

That night explian it. But what I dont get is today, when I was with my GF,she just came up to me and tried to get a little to friendly with me. Woman really make me mad sometimes ya-know?

HEY! I'm an Avatar!!! Sweet! [img]graemlins/flickdown.gif[/img]

It's not all women DrowArchMage, you just got lucky ROTFL. Ooo, an Avatar Avater LOL! :D

Oh, now i feel really special.lol. She hasnt tried anything today at work,but tomorrow is another day. Oh well, i really wish it would warm up so i could go back to doing construction with my brothers. I hate working at a coffee shop in the winter.Everyone wants hot cocco.

And my EX wants a hot peice of me! lol.
Sorry, that was bad.