A girl I knew well is dead tonight. And I'm not sure what to say.

Years ago, in college, I had a very tight group of friends. These were the very first people to show me 'D&D' (3rd edition then, I think). We all played characters. I tried to play a thief, but would die often. I played a fighter mage once, but was torn limb from limb by lizard men. My only successful character was a naive paladin who didn't know he had 'lay on hands' until everyone in the party was almost dead. (The DM said that starting a bidding war at that point over the last remaining party heal might change my alignment (lol))

Careers and families have moved us around and some of us lost touch. Today I found that one of the people in our party died. Lisa was a well meaning girl, but she had a vindictive streak. She, to me Was the Drow Elf thief she played. She used to wear boots and a purple hooded cloak to games and always wanted to organize trips to the local Renaissance Festivals. I flirted with her from time to time and she flirted with me from time to time. And we had heated disagreements too. But we always brushed it off the next day. She was one of the people who instilled a true Love of the game in me. When people would play female thieves in games, I'd see her face when interacting with them. I'm not sure that I ever thanked her for that. I know that I'll never get a chance to now.

There are no resurrection scrolls; there are only memories and the love that lives on.

Oh that is so sad, especially the way you wrote and described, was very touching. I'm so sorry. *HUGS* :(

it is sad :( just remember her in happy times, and always tell people of her, it well keep her memory alive

A very beautiful tribute to a fallen comrade. [img]graemlins/thumbsup.gif[/img] I only wish that she were alive to read it. Perhaps you could share it with her family or friends.

I'm very sorry to hear that. Losing close friends hurts quite a bit, but remember, photos may fade away, but memories won't, as long as they are kept alive.

How sad :( . But your memories are very special ones and she'll live on in them.

what attalus said...

I'm sorry to hear of your friend's passing, quietman. It's never easy, and I can tell by your words that she was special and had a strong impact on you.

To echo what others have said, you may want to share your thoughts and words with her family. It's always hard when a loved one passes on, and knowing that others felt the same way you did can make it more bearable.

Peace...

*B*
Minister, etc. (ret.)

I'm sorry to hear about your friends death Quietman.... but the things you said in your post will make her live in the minds of others for the rest of their lives [img]smile.gif[/img]

I'm glad you have such fond memories of her quietman. Cherish those memories, and be glad to have known her. She'll be forever young.

<font color=plum>I am very sad for your loss, <font color=white>quietman</font>. I lost one of my high school classmates last year. He wasn't the first to pass away, but he was one of the most popular guys in our class. And just a few weeks ago, one of the nurses at our Nursing Home facility was killed in a freak accident.

Both of these deaths were completely unexpected and everyone was left in a state of shock afterwards - so I've had a small taste of the pain, shock and grief you feel for Lisa.

Along with the sadness and grief for the loss, the loss of a close friend suddenly reminds us of our own vulnerability and mortality. It could just as easily have been us that passed away instead of our friend.

I pray that you will find comfort in your memories and that Lisa will find rest in eternal bliss. I agree that you should share your touching tribute with her family. It would be very healing for them to know how much Lisa meant to you.

In fact, it would be a really good idea if you could arrange a reunion with your former gaming group and have a dinner or party in Lisa's honor. Then each of you sit down and record your own memories of Lisa and what made her special to each of you. Then put the collected tributes together and present them to her family to show how much Lisa meant to so many different people.

We did that for the nurse at work. We had several coworkers write down a short tribute of what she had meant to them. I collected the tributes (there was a total of 9 pages) and put them together in a small binder for the family members. I printed several copies so each member could have their own personal copy. Maybe you and your friends could do something similar for Lisa's family to help her memory live on.

May Peace and Comfort be with you during this time of loss and pain.</font>

I know how you feel. Trust me on this one. Just be strong. Feel the flow of nice memories and let them go in your mind to think in a postivive way.

Thank You, everyone. I'm going to do my best to follow your words. There's a great deal of wisdom there. I've always said that i was lucky to have found ironworks and to be able to post here. Thank You!

Yes... there is still glory, in defeat. [img]smile.gif[/img]

Godspeed to her, and to you ;) Chin up, walk on...

What a lovely tribute. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Yes it is a wery nice tribute think it is wery sad but i am sorry for your loss too.

<font color=lime>Sorry for your loss Quietman... :( </font>

I'll raise my dice in tribute...It's a loss to all roleplayers when one leaves us...

Yes Iron Works is a very unique place, with very unique people.
The wisdom that has been shared with you will hopefully be remembered so it is able to be followed.
Don't worry quietman, everyone has this sadness as you do, and everyone will experience what you will. And the only way to get through this is if you have hope and faith in yourself.