This is a place where I would like to hear what everyone here has to say about that. I so frequently have to make this decision. I am one moment online chatting to friends and my real life ones ask me to go out. What do I do?

Id go with the Real Life friends.... Because u r alwayz gonna know ur Real Life Friends betta cause as far as u know ur online friends might not b exactly who u think they r.... or who they say they r

Thats my opinion neway :D

Heh, I always go out with my real life friends when I get the chance, no matter what I'm doing online.

Depends on the situation and my mood. If they say they're going to Bondi beach I'm there. Doowatchalyke! ;)

I try to get a good balance between online and RL social (and work, unfortunately).

Can't miss my Friday and Saturday night boogie, though!

U real lucky u live in Sydney Memnoch.... IMO its definately the Best Place in Aus.
And im not Surprised u go down 2 bondi wheneva u can... I like Bronte betta though

sry 4 going slightly [img]graemlins/offtopic.gif[/img]

What about friends that you don't see a lot becasue they live a bit far away. But phone you ALL the time and are really good friends.

I was just wondering, do they count as real life friends or not??

I think we should stick to who what makes us happy and not to what society judges to be sociable.

Good point..... but how far away do u mean by a little????

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Avatar:
What about friends that you don't see a lot becasue they live a bit far away. But phone you ALL the time and are really good friends.

I was just wondering, do they count as real life friends or not??

I think we should stick to who what makes us happy and not to what society judges to be sociable.<hr></blockquote>

I sense a guilty conscience on Avatar's side. ;) Been spending too much time online? Been neglecting some RL friends?

I don't have any real life friends... well okey few but they all live ffffar away and I see them like once a month if I'm lucky.

One thing I hate about the internet is you get to know a lot of great people but it is really hard, because you rarely get to see them, if ever. I have a friend in Argentina who I'd die for if I could just get to spend another day with her. We have met in real life but that was 2 years ago and she is sooo far away.

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Glorfindel:
Good point..... but how far away do u mean by a little????<hr></blockquote>

I dunno, about a few hours by car.
Oh and Vaskez, you are right. I feel that I am neglecting all the wonderful RL friends around me.

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Avatar:
What about friends that you don't see a lot becasue they live a bit far away. But phone you ALL the time and are really good friends.

I was just wondering, do they count as real life friends or not??

I think we should stick to who what makes us happy and not to what society judges to be sociable.<hr></blockquote>


Avatar, tip for you: friends are friends. Online or offline, they are REAL. If a person's your friend, then they are your friend - online or not.

Remember that friends are like stars - you may not always see them but you know they are always there.

Like I said, doowatchalyke. ;)

Mmmm.... ~looks at tartlet~ *sSssmmMmOOoOoOoOoOoOOoOoOoOoOoCcChHhEeSs* do I sense something amiss?

Sweetheart you know how I live. I think it all depends on the situation. And I would totally understand if you had to go out instead of staying to chat to me ~understanding smile~

IRL friends and net friends are just as important as each other. But in order to make life easier it would be a good idea to spend a lot of time with irl friends. Just spend some QUALITY time with each ~BAS~

If my friends invite me to too many parties I decline a few invites but invite them to the parties I am going to too, that way we still get to see each other. A party every other day is ok *nodz* Then every other day you could be on the net ~grynz~ Whaddya think of this solution? We'll talk about this later... ~huggles~



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I think it also depends. People change and if you don't spend enough time with them, one day you'll take another look at them and realise you actually don't know your "friend" at all...

I know for sure that "friends" that bad mouth you or make vitriolic comments about you after a misunderstanding aren't real friends. Either that or they're just in a seriously bad mood. But if after a while they're still mistreating you then it's not just a mood and maybe you ought to think about moving on...

I've been lucky and it's always been a bad mood. I hope my luck holds out *beaming*

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<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by ʆë®Ñï†Ý:


Mmmm.... ~looks at tartlet~ *sSssmmMmOOoOoOoOoOoOOoOoOoOoOoCcChHhEeSs* do I sense something amiss?

Sweetheart you know how I live. I think it all depends on the situation. And I would totally understand if you had to go out instead of staying to chat to me ~understanding smile~

IRL friends and net friends are just as important as each other. But in order to make life easier it would be a good idea to spend a lot of time with irl friends. Just spend some QUALITY time with each ~BAS~

If my friends invite me to too many parties I decline a few invites but invite them to the parties I am going to too, that way we still get to see each other. A party every other day is ok *nodz* Then every other day you could be on the net ~grynz~ Whaddya think of this solution? We'll talk about this later... ~huggles~



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EAKS! *blushes* It's really funny because this is the 3rd time you've seen a post that by me you're not supposed to. ;)
Anyway, we'll talk about it later sweetie.
You are penetrating all my secrets on IW! :D :D

oooooo..... wel at this rate *somebody* wont be worrying much about *friends* at all ;)

heheh, actually i like online friends better than real life ones at this point in my life (all the kids in my hometown are traitors and backbiters). doesnt matter to the distance for any of it for me, if theyre better friends than fine.

RL friends by far. While sitting in front of the computer is fine, it gets old quick. Well mabey this is because I sit infront of one all day at work, but I have to get away from the computer.

I would go with my rl friends because i like to get out of the house. I have a couple good online friends but i have better times with RL friends.

But, Avapie, 'online' friends are also a kind of RL friends - they are real people, ya know, just a bit farther away. Having met several for real, I can say I love them as much as my 'RL' friends - I mean those who live less that 1 hour away from my home. [img]smile.gif[/img]

I have to agree with Mem, friends are friends. I have both and have to say that I treasure my friends regardless of whether I see them in RL or on-line. I sort of fail to see the big deal and seeing someone "in person." I mean it is nice, wonderful in fact, to get to really give a hug; however, the basis for any friendship is commmunication and I communicate with all my friends. As a very dear and close on-line friend has said to me, the only difference is the means by which we communicate. On-line we communicate by means of a computer (and with some very close friends, the telephone).

I really so no difference.

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Memnoch:
Can't miss my Friday and Saturday night boogie, though!<hr></blockquote>

OH!!! I see how it is now...You'll go dancing there, but just reFUSE to dance for us...fine...I understand...*sobs*

;) [img]tongue.gif[/img] [img]tongue.gif[/img] [img]tongue.gif[/img]

Anyhoo, I agree with the general trend here. ;) I have friends where I live and online friends. They are all dear to me and I make time for them all. I choose whom to spend time with based on what I feel like doing at the time. Or if a particular friend needs me at to be there for them (whether in my hometown or online). I don't get to spend as much time with everyone as I would like, but I try. ;) And I don't particularly care for the term 'real-life' friends versus 'online friends'...I mean, if I was chatting online with a friend who moved away, I wouldn't consider them any different than those I've only met online. That term 'real-life' makes me feel like people I talk to online can't be real people. [img]tongue.gif[/img] And I know that they are. [img]smile.gif[/img]

Okay, here are my thoughts on this subject. I usually don't call the people I chat with online "friends". For me, friendship is something that develops over time. There are various levels of trust and companionship that grow within friendship. I cannot, in good faith, call anyone here a friend. It's my definition of friendship that is much different than many of yours. I do have plenty of online acquantaintances that I am friendly with but to truly be my friend, it would take years and plenty of patience. It's not easy being my friend. If you sat down with my best friend from 8th grade, then he would attest to the last point. Thus, I don't have many friends. Since I doubt if anyone actually read this, let me close by talking about my socks. I know someone stole them and I'm searching every nook and crannie until I find them. They have an Eagles symbol on the top and smell like kitty litter. It would save each of you a world of heartache if you returned my socks (washed please)

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Glorfindel:
oooooo..... wel at this rate *somebody* wont be worrying much about *friends* at all ;) <hr></blockquote>

Why what's happened to you? :D

STOP IT! Sooo silly [img]tongue.gif[/img] [img]tongue.gif[/img]

Oh and I totally agree. FRIENDS ARE FRIENDS no matter what.
but that escapes the debate!

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Hiram Sedai:
Since I doubt if anyone actually read this, let me close by talking about my socks. I know someone stole them and I'm searching every nook and crannie until I find them. They have an Eagles symbol on the top and smell like kitty litter. It would save each of you a world of heartache if you returned my socks (washed please)<hr></blockquote>

<font color = "lightblue">Sorry, but I already sold them to a wandering exorcist who was out of practice and looking for something small and evil. He said he'd be back for you in a few weeks.</font>

Bah! What do I need friends for, wether thery're online or not, when I have Mr. Rodgers here to be my friend..
Say "Hi" Mr. Rodgers!
*talks from the corner of his mouth* HI!
Good boy, now let's play "Spin the bottle", just the two of us, shall we?
*from the corner of mouth* YAY!

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by ʆë®Ñï†Ý:
I think it also depends. People change and if you don't spend enough time with them, one day you'll take another look at them and realise you actually don't know your "friend" at all...

I know for sure that "friends" that bad mouth you or make vitriolic comments about you after a misunderstanding aren't real friends. Either that or they're just in a seriously bad mood. But if after a while they're still mistreating you then it's not just a mood and maybe you ought to think about moving on...

I've been lucky and it's always been a bad mood. I hope my luck holds out *beaming*

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Hmmmmm.. LOL.. ;) Alright.. will talk about this later Eternity. Sorry I didn't see this post earlier, as we were online together and the browser didn't update me.

Well I totally see what you were on about. ;) ;) [img]tongue.gif[/img] [img]tongue.gif[/img]
Anyway, I have to agree with you most of the way, but I hope it's not true. But *hugs* you are always my friend. [img]graemlins/agree.gif[/img]