if someone, asks me to share with her the darkest secret that I wished never to share with anyone. what should I do?

It depends how close you're willing to be with her and how much you trust her. Intimate disclosure is part of a relationship, be it a good friendship or a romantic partnership.

It does of course involve risk. You are exposing part of yourself.

Is she telling you her darkest secret too? http://www.ironworksforum.com/ubb/no...iles/smile.gif


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no she is not... but someone got to make a start, correct?
I am willing to take the relationship one step futhur, but I am just ... you know, fear...

Only you can judge when the time is right to take it further. You know her. Presumably you are learning to "read" her signals?

If you weigh up the losses risked against the possible gains, and the gains outweigh the loss, go for it. You are right that someone needs to start. Being mindful of the balance of disclosure is important though. You don't want the situation where one is repeatedly pouring their heart out and the other isn't at all. It's unbalanced.

You do have to start somewhere though.

Hope this is grist for the mill. The choice is yours alone. Pray about it perhaps. I would pray in this sort of situation. But then I pray in most situations..... http://www.ironworksforum.com/ubb/no...miles/wink.gif


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[This message has been edited by Yorick (edited 10-09-2001).]

I'd say that it depends on how exciting the dark secret is! http://www.ironworksforum.com/ubb/no...miles/wink.gif

If it has to do with another woman and your life with her, I'd say most definately leave it out!

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Shoot!!!!

Sorry, interupted a private thread!

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doesnt matter, thanks a lot

Hehe, Liliara, your bad. http://www.ironworksforum.com/ubb/no...iles/smile.gif



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Well, by definition no thread in a public forum is private. Though I'm addressed I hardly have a mortgage on advice for my good friend. He can pick and choose from the subsequent opinions that flow in.

Given a different set of circumstances to his, your advice would indeed be vital as you provided an important window into the female mind.

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However in saying that I know of a woman that pestered her man for every detail about every previous woman.

Knowledge was power I guess.

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dont know what to do...

Whew! Good to see that I wasn't interupting!

I will add this, everyone has a dark side, and if you trust the person then I say tell them. They after all may well be waiting for a chance to do the same. I stand by my first statement, though, if it is about another chick, I would be cautious! (after all, if her secret was about a wild intimate encounter, would you want to know the details?)

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[This message has been edited by Liliara (edited 10-09-2001).]

her encouter? **evil laugh**

Easy 250! LOL! This is a PG forum and I think you just gave me more info than I needed! http://www.ironworksforum.com/ubb/no...es/biggrin.gif http://www.ironworksforum.com/ubb/no...es/biggrin.gif



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nope, I mean, I 'd like to know!!!! http://www.ironworksforum.com/ubb/no...es/biggrin.gif

Ohhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!! Gotcha! Hmmm, my recomendation still stands! http://www.ironworksforum.com/ubb/no...miles/wink.gif



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Break a big decision down into little ones. Do you want this relationship? Do you trust her? Are you ready to open up? Will she freak out at your secret?

If the answers support telling her then do it!



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Well why dont you tell everyone here what your deepest darkest secret is man! http://www.ironworksforum.com/ubb/no...es/biggrin.gif
Then maybe everyone can judge if you should tell her or not... hee hee hee http://www.ironworksforum.com/ubb/no...es/biggrin.gif http://www.ironworksforum.com/ubb/no...es/biggrin.gif

I do, I do, I am ready to open up... she MIGHT freak out...

Hmmm...I'm a little curious myself! http://www.ironworksforum.com/ubb/no...miles/wink.gif

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**knocks on Liliara's head** mind your own business!

Email me.



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writing... bards.com, ok?

DOH!!!

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Aww there there sad face girl. *rubs head* *rub rub rub*



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sent

Awww, thanks Yorick!
Does this mean I can rejoin the conversation?

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http://www.ironworksforum.com/ubb/no...iles/smile.gif

Guys I'm off to bed. Sriously tired is what I am.

Leo, I sent I reply. God bless you mate.

Liliara, goodnight m'girl.

Adios Amigos..... zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz


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http://www.ironworksforum.com/ubb/no...iles/frown.gif Oh, all right (sniff)

Goodnight Yorick, sleep well, and God Bless.

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