I've been doing a lot of interesting reading on life lately. Perhaps it's my mid-life crisis and I'm looking for ways to improve myself and my perceptions, I don't know. Anyway, there are a few things I've read in the last few days that really 'spoke' to me and that I want to share.

Comments or additions are welcome from anyone. Hopefully these won't sound 'trite' to you all. http://www.tgeweb.com/cgi-bin/ubb/no...iles/smile.gif But my biggest hope is that you will share what speaks to you!

-------------------------- Acceptance -----------------------------
The need for acceptance is number one. We want to feel valued, desired, and welcomed. We want to feel people seek us out not because we had to earn their attention, but just because of who we are.

-------------------------- Hugs -----------------------------------
A hug can ground you. Pull you back from the edge. Or out of your head. Into a circle of arms and the sturdy comfort of the present.

Language is a skin, and so is skin a language. It speaks when words fail us and communicates to parts of ourselves that are beyond the reach of words. The simple fact is that we are, first and foremost, mammals. We thrive on touch.

A hug is an occasion of triumph, not tragedy. It's message is, "You're one of us! You're home."

--------------------------- Life --------------------------
Life's greatest lesson is to do your best, enjoy the journey, and then release all attachment to what is to come. Let it be. And be comfortable with whatever is.


That last one, life, is something I want to tattoo on my arm so I can be reminded of it every minute of every day! http://www.tgeweb.com/cgi-bin/ubb/no...miles/wink.gif


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Sometimes I think I
understand everything,
then I regain consciousness.

Happy Member of Fast Fourward.

I try to hug five people a day. I used to go for ten, but it is hard in a business environment . . . giving hugs helps their lives out as well as your own.

Try to shock two people a day. Not electronically, verbally. If you can make someone laugh and get that disbelieving stare, you have made your day more fun and lightened their day considerable.

Don't pet a burning dog. http://www.tgeweb.com/cgi-bin/ubb/no...miles/wink.gif

BK

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Consort to a Queen
Champion of Truth, Justice and Cloudy's Way
Captain of the Knights of the Golden Dragons
Heart, Mind, and Soul
Offical Wizard and Warrior Questioner

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Live Every Minute As If It Is Your Last...It Just Could Be! ~Me

I discovered this recovering from a near fatal auto accident and I tell you what, when you want to be sure you live happily it WORKS!

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Moni

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Life is a series of events that only seem important at the time.

Remember this! Never make a snap judgement on the basis of a spurious occurrence. It can save your life. http://www.tgeweb.com/cgi-bin/ubb/no...iles/smile.gif

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Regarding Bad Habits:
Any unconscious, compulsive ritual is a problem. But specific activities - smoking, drinking, taking drugs, eating sweets, or asking silly questions - are both bad and good; every action has it's price, and it's pleasures. Recognizing both sides you become realistic and responsible for your actions. And only then can you make the free and conscious choice - to do or not to do.

There is a saying: "When you sit, sit; when you stand, stand, whatever you do, don't wobble." Once you make your choice, do it with all your spirit. Don't be like the preacher who thought about praying while making love to his wife, and thought about making love to his wife while praying.

It is better to make a mistake with the full force of your being than to timidly avoid mistakes with a trembling spirit. Responsibility means recognizing both pleasure and price, action and consequences, then making a choice.


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Sometimes I think I
understand everything,
then I regain consciousness.

Happy Member of Fast Fourward.

[This message has been edited by bilqis (edited 05-04-2001).]

"You never win a game unless you beat the guy in front of you. The score on the board doesn't mean a thing. That's for the fans. You've got to win the war with the man in front of you. You've got to get your man."

"I firmly believe that any man's finest hour, the greatest fulfillment of all that he holds dear, is the moment when he has worked his heart out in a good cause and lies exhausted on the field of battle-victorious."

-Vince Lombardi

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and my girlfriends, Pamila and Phil

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The highest reward for man's toil is Not what he gets for it -
but what he becomes by it.

Remember that your Character is your Destiny.

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Defender for the Light -
Goodness knows there is a lot of Dark out there!! - Where are my matches?!?
The secret is knowing the rules so you can bend/break them selectively!!! ;)
Aquisition master of the Finest of Humours - and the Killer Joke :D
Musketeer of Fast Fourward
Looking for lost brain - I left it only for a moment....
Muse and Eternal Love of KDogRex

Dont leave a forum when you get depressed!!!

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Best lessons I ever learned:

You can only depend on yourself.
If it needs doing, do it.
Be helpful.
Be kind.
Smile at people.
Notice beauty.




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Fljotsdale

Trust in those around you, have faith in yourself, believe in what you are doing and never walk away unless no-one loses by it - and you can never fail.

Tancred

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<font color="cocooo">Trust is indeed a shiny jewel,</font><font color="eoa8oo">set in the stone of friendship.</font><font color="eo7ooo">And much like any other stone</font><font color="eo38oo"> can be use to crush the skulls of those unsuspecting.</font><font color="eooooo">To clear the path for me to claim</font><font color="cooo3o"> my rightfull place as master of all I survey.</font>http://www.tgeweb.com/cgi-bin/ubb/no...les/tongue.gif
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Yeah, that's a good one. Put the gun DOWN, now...

Tancred

lmao
yeah that's the same reaction I get from the postal carriers evaluation board every year.(J/K)no offence meant to anyone who really works for the post office.
How about
Be carefull of the hands you step on going up the corperate ladder,
they will likely be connected to the butts you will have to kiss on the way back down.

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<font color="cocooo">Trust is indeed a shiny jewel,</font><font color="eoa8oo">set in the stone of friendship.</font><font color="eo7ooo">And much like any other stone</font><font color="eo38oo"> can be use to crush the skulls of those unsuspecting.</font><font color="eooooo">To clear the path for me to claim</font><font color="cooo3o"> my rightfull place as master of all I survey.</font>http://www.tgeweb.com/cgi-bin/ubb/no...les/tongue.gif
<font color="996633"]ooooooooooooo</font><font color="403000">..........</font><font color="ffffao">O</font><font color="996633"></font>,_
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When it doubt do something, its easier to say I'm sorry than live with guilt of doing nothng.

No decission is a decission

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"Do not keep the alabaster box of your friendship sealed up until your friends are dead. Fill their lives with sweetness. Speak approving, cheering words while their ears can hear them, and while their hearts can be thrilled and made happier. The kind of things you mean to say when they are gone, say before they go."
~ George W. Childs, 1829-1894
American Publisher, Philanthropist


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Sometimes I think I
understand everything,
then I regain consciousness.

Happy Member of Fast Fourward.

Remember that your life is going on today, not yesterday or tomorrow.

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The world is my oyster !
And now I have the knives to open it ...

No words of wisdom....just wanted to join in... original smiley face http://www.tgeweb.com/cgi-bin/ubb/no...iles/smile.gif

What smiley face ? The NinjaMoiraine ? http://www.tgeweb.com/cgi-bin/ubb/no...miles/wink.gif


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The world is my oyster !
And now I have the knives to open it ...

did i say smiley face.......lol

mmm... good idea, bilqis
some trite, some tight, all to true;

life is what happens when you are making other plans

don't waste time regretting yesterday or worrying about tomorrow, concentrate on making today better - the others will fall right into line if you do

home is where if you have to go back to, they have to take you in

never spoken on a deathbed - "I wish I had worked more"

money doesn't change people, it just reveals them fully

the worst possible failure is giving up what I want most for what I want right now

eat lunch AND play outside at recess after with your daughter every chance you get - all to soon the question will change from "Dad, are you coming to school today?" to "Dad, you aren't coming to school today, are you?"

If someone is important to you, ask yourself if you have done right by them while there is still time to change the answer if you don't like the question

one day at a time, you CAN make a difference


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Defender of Those Unable To
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I got an email a while back with these in. I know some have been posted before, but I'll put all of it up for completeness.

I N S T R U C T I O N S F O R L I F E

1. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
2. Memorize your favorite poem.
3. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have, or loaf all you want.
4. When you say, "I love you," mean it.
5. When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
6. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
7. Believe in love at first sight.
8. Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.
9. Love deeply and passionately. You may get hurt, but it's the only way to live life completely.
10. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name-calling.
11. Don't judge people by their relatives, or by the life they were born into.
12. Teach yourself to speak slowly but think quickly.
13. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
14. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
15. Call your mother.
16. Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
17. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
18. Follow the three Rs: Respect for self, Respect for others, Responsibility for all our actions.
19. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
20. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
21. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
22. Marry a person you love to talk to. As you get older, his/her conversational skills will be even more important.
23. Spend some time alone.
24. Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values.
25. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
26. Read more books. Television is no substitute.
27. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you'll be able to enjoy it a second time.
28. Trust in God but lock your car.
29. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
30. Do all you can to create a tranquil, harmonious home. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don't bring up the past.
31. Don't just listen to what someone is saying. Listen to why they are saying it.
32. Share your knowledge. It's a way to achieve immortality.
33. Be gentle with the earth.
34. Pray or meditate. There's immeasurable power in it.
35. Never interrupt when you are being flattered.
36. Mind your own business.
37. Don't trust anyone who doesn't close his/her eyes when you kiss.
38. Once a year, go someplace you've never been before.
39. If you make a lot of money, put it to use helping others while you are living. It is wealth's greatest satisfaction.
40. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
41. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
42. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
43. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
44. Live with the knowledge that your character is your destiny.
45. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.

I don't pretend to live by all these, or even believe they are all true, but they quite often give me something to think about.

One final one from me;
When its a lovely evening after a beautiful day, with the sun still shinnng, the birds singing, and you've spent all day indoors, don't stay at home using your computer. Go out somewhere and make the most of it.

I'm off to the pub, see you all later. http://www.tgeweb.com/cgi-bin/ubb/no...iles/smile.gif

(WHAT?!!???..... it's a Saturday evening http://www.tgeweb.com/cgi-bin/ubb/no...miles/wink.gif )


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The best way to succeed in life is to act on the advice you give others.



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then I regain consciousness.

Happy Member of Fast Fourward.

I REALLY like this one!! http://www.tgeweb.com/cgi-bin/ubb/no...es/biggrin.gif


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Fljotsdale

When feeling guilty about getting wasted in a pub just think -

"I'd rather have a full bottle in front of me than a full frontal labotomy".

Can't be applied to anything in real life but it makes more and more sense by the bottle. That thought's enough to keep me in the pub for days on end...Guilt free and facultyless. Hic... http://www.tgeweb.com/cgi-bin/ubb/no...es/biggrin.gif

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One love, peace.

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Mouse

Life experiences..
Hmm, ok gloom attack..

When you have found something worth dying for, you´re to afraid to die because you value that thing too much.

Your word is to die for, unless it is broken.

Love is not eternal, and it doesn´t solve as much as it causes.

Respect, is a word everyone tries to gain, but very few know what it stands for.

Friends are people that let you use them, and who you let use you.

A life is a peiod of anguish, fear, hopes, dreams, plans, love, friendship all which are mostly lost on trying to do your job.

To say that you´re sorry doesn´t mean a thing unless you´re really sorry.

A virtual life is better than a meaningless existence.

Dreams can brake you down, as can hope, love and anger.

Paranoia is only one of may ways to live a life.

Basicly:
Acceptence is a good one but one great man said this about what people really want..
Make a person sick and to go without food for four days, and he will kill for his real values of life..

Acceptence is good though. It is vital if you have food, sleep and health.

Life maybe a lesson, but do you learn fron it or do you simply die?

Answering questions with questions are really a drag http://www.tgeweb.com/cgi-bin/ubb/no...miles/wink.gif

OK, some fun now to not gloom it all down..

A sucking chestwound is natures way to tell you to slowdown.

OK, how to make life good?
Learn to minimize life, take a portion and be happy for it, thoose little things so to say.
Smile at the sun, be happy after a good meal. Enjoy a hug and friendship. If that is good for you, you will be happier.

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DO NOT GO GENTLE INTO THAT GOOD NIGHT

Do not go gentle into that good night,
Old age should burn and rave at close of day;
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
Though wise men at their end know dark is right,
Because their words had forked no lightning they
Do not go gentle into that good night.

Good men, the last wave by, crying how bright
Their frail deeds might have danced in a green bay,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Wild men who caught and sang the sun in flight,
And learn, too late, they grieved it on its way,
Do not go gentle into that good night.

Grave men, near death, who see with blinding sight
Blind eyes could blaze like meteors and be gay,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

And you, my father, there on the sad height,
Curse, bless me now with your fierce tears, I pray.
Do not go gentle into that good night.
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

-Dylan Thomas



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Fljotsdale

You love wolves, this will fit in well. Some Native Americans (I'm part Hopi) believe that Wolf teaches us to live life day-to-day. The Wolf's life is simple, and happy. He thinks about the NOW, not worrying about tomorrow, and not re-living the past. He plays as often as he hunts, and cherishes his family.
The Loyalty of Wolf is to his nature. His nature is in the Now.

It's a good way to live.


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and my girlfriends, Pamila and Phil

Sometimes I wish I could live up to thoose simple, yet difficult ideals =)


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The soul would have no rainbow had the eyes no tears. -John Vance Cheney,
poet (1848-1922)


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The RudeDawg
Known in these Forgotten Realms as Perin LightEyes
and my girlfriends, Pamila and Phil

LOL, You sure ain't kidding there!
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Moni

Loved your contributions! Thank you for sharing them!

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Wolfgir! Your rumblings are always appreciated! Such insight and caring as you display does not go unnoticed!

*Hugs & a scritch*


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Sometimes I think I
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then I regain consciousness.

Happy Member of Fast Fourward.

Ahhh, finally a good sritching http://www.tgeweb.com/cgi-bin/ubb/no...es/biggrin.gif *wolfgrin*

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