Sorcerer Alex |
09-16-2002 05:17 AM |
I really don't think you actually want to ask out a girl you don't know at all, so it's in your best interest to get to know her properly first: you'll know what you're letting yourself in for, plus it makes asking her out a whole lot easier. You have to worm yourself into a situation in which the asking out seems like a natural progression in whatever relationship you have with the girl.
It's quite easy to find ways of talking to girls you are interested in, so you don't have to worry about making the first move. If you're on your way to class, for example, you can just approach her and ask her something about the lesson. Silly as it may sound, you already have an interaction going - and that means a chance to flirt. It's very simple things that are important here - body language, smile and confidence mainly - just don't overdo anything. This first conversation is crucial - it's your foothold, as it were. Once you've had this first talk with her, just keep thinking up new ways in which you can get chatting again. But again, give her space. If you know there is something you both have in common, bring it up, and make a joke of it. I once did that when I noticed the girl next to me was, like me, left-handed - we got talking about how scissors are an impossibility when you're a lefty, and how society cruelly discriminates against those of the left-handed persuasion ;) Okay, complete nonsense as far as subject matter goes - the topic itself is not important, but the fact that you're talking is.
It's important to laugh with her, and to have fun. Once you have that first laugh together, you'll find that things go so much easier. Once you've had a few talks and things seem to be going alright, you can start thinking of things to do outside of school, college or work (or wherever it is you see each other). You could ask her to the mall for an afternoon, or to go for a walk on the beach. I'd suggest doing at least a few things like this together, as friends, before you think about asking her out. Once you are ready to pose the big question, make sure it's the right time and place. I once asked a girl out while on a walk through a nearby forest - it was quiet, serene and romantic, and it felt right. So if you take that into account too, I can't really see where you could go wrong. Though I am ever an optimist where women are concerned :D [img]tongue.gif[/img]
Well, these are just my views on the whole scene, I hope you find it useful. Good luck with however you choose to tackle the situation [img]smile.gif[/img]
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