For each man kills the thing he loves
By each let this be heard
Some do it with a bitter look,
Some with a flattering word
The coward does it with a kiss
The brave man with a sword

Oscar Wilde
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<ul>[*]The border of independence[*]The border of concern[*]The border of neglect[/list]
They came up in a psychology lesson.

Perhaps it is a balance between the three, or two or maybe even one. Like I said - there is no correct answer.

"How much neglect is independence?"

"How much independence becomes neglect?"

I hope that through time, it has become a bond strong enough to determine these answers without words. And that's the answer that you're looking for.http://www.ironworksforum.com/ubb/no...iles/smile.gif


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ackkk... perfect... just perfect... you know, this is getting interesting

because she DOES think people around her fuss her over too much (for some reason) then she once told me "so you are just like everyone else?"
she also said "I feel like I have no friends, that people are with me for some reason, they want to learn something, they are using me."

I see, so if I care about her, that will make her think I am "just like everyone else"

I will be less concerned about her then...

heh, this is the second time I've been told to stop. first is to hold my love in check, now is my caring... whats next?

Thank you, Melusine... sigh

she IS scared of close contact... I thought things improved when we were at the bart station...

ok, same old words then "back off"

one last question:

should I tell her she deserves to be cared for?
or should I just back off?

Yeah, I've heard that one too.http://www.ironworksforum.com/ubb/no...miles/wink.gif

There's also something similiar in Shakespeare's tragedies - dunno which one. Actually I shouldn've said this, because good old Shakespeare's "all spices".

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God, I don't want to sound insensative to the problem, believe me, but it sounds like she has some social issues. Give her a little bit of space. It sounds like that's what she wants. Who knows, maybe if she's left reasonably alone she may realize that she does need someone to be close with.

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ladies, guys, thank you for all your comments, I am gonna say this to her, any suggestions?

"ok, so, I know that people have given you too much attention, had cared you too much. But you know, if change you to anyone else, that girl would be so happy, know what that means? that means it is YOUR problem, so deal with it, I am outa here, damn you woman! all idiots!"

lol, rofl, just kidding, I have to give myself a good laugh, sorry, Melusine and other female members, I meant no offense, everyone is different http://www.ironworksforum.com/ubb/no...es/biggrin.gif

I think "cared for" would be the wrong term - that would sound like everybody else - she may be fed up feeling pitied since her last issues

"Sorry, honey, I didn't mean to crowd you - it's just that I love you so much" would be my wording

It's hard to say what else you can do though. You obviously don't want to push her away



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true... but can relationship still grow if we remain a distance? ackk... back to the same words "patience"

alright, I will not care about her whatsoever.... grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr http://www.ironworksforum.com/ubb/no.../angryfire.gif

what is a freaking "good judgment"!!!!!???

I think everyone has given 250 lots of good advice to think about, just to add my two cents in just be yourself dude. I mean bend a bit here and there but if someone doesnt like the things that make you "you" then oh well ■■■■'em. They have to bend a bit too!
Hiram and LadyZ, thanks for getting that stupid song in my head, if I actually had a 10cc cd I would smash it right now. Yea yea "think she wants to break up, instead she wants to make up" BLAHHHHHHH thanks a lot! http://www.ironworksforum.com/ubb/no...les/tongue.gif

Is it growing now?


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